The Tender Warrior Archetype

A blog about mindful living and redefining what it means to be man

Parental Fears

We are unknowingly taught to fear the world at a young age when our parents place their own fears on their children’s shoulders. Whether unconsciously or not, we grow up believing these fears that weren’t ours. What were you told to be afraid of as a kid that haunted you?

Moderation is Key(ish)

Why do those of us who are more heart-centered consistently find ourselves in the role of moderator during a conflict? Is this constructive or destructive behavior?

“Dis”Honorable Sacrifice

Those who are prone to “keep the peace” tend to sacrifice their own wants and feelings to make everybody else happy. What can we do to prevent this behavior, but also get our own needs met?

Boxes of Trauma

If you want to build healthy and strong relationships with others, you can’t start them off by opening the proverbial “Pandora’s Box” of your past trauma history.

Safety Nets

Being stuck in your comfort zone is like being a trapeze artist who needs a safety net to perform; sure you know you’re going to be safe, but you’ll never soar to new heights or challenge yourself if you don’t take those big uncomfortable leaps sometimes…

Emotional Crutch

A look into how standing on your own two feet instead of being dependent on others to hold you up strengthens your relationships.

Alarm Bells

Ben Driskell, LMT is a massage therapist practicing in greater Pensacola, FL area. Besides being a “muscle whisperer”, he greatly enjoys writing about issues related to healthy masculinity, mindful living and sacred intimacy. He hopes to aid men in embracing a lifestyle that is authentic to them and not what society says they should be.

Muscle Memory Is Emotional Memory

Muscle memory is a real thing – When you recall or worse yet, ruminate on, old memories that harbor bad feelings, your muscles tense up exactly as if you were there all over again!

Growing Gills

Most men I interact with would rather do just about anything than process their feels, and many women aren’t all that great at it either. It occurred to me that it can be intimidating or even downright scary to pull back and look at giant emotion swirling in the body and I had this thought…

Why empaths are like canaries in a coal mine

You’re not weak if you’re sensitive. It’s your superpower. Empaths are like canaries in a coal mine; your reactions signal something is off… maybe even gravely wrong. But it’s still YOUR job not to let the toxic haze overtake you and create a replica of the virus within you that you then unconsciously transmit to…


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